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08 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – -February 8

My anxiety was caused by trying to change the past, and trying to control the future; both impossible tasks.

How many times in my life have I been stuck in that place of anxiety by not being in the moment. Lying in bed before a big event at work, getting more and more anxious because I can’t sleep, and if I can’t sleep I’ll be tired, and if I’m tired how will I perform the tasks of the next day.

Now that I’ve realized that I always live through this, I just try to relax. Even if I can’t sleep, I can at least rest. Invariably, I get up the next day and do what’s in front of me.  You can’t teach this stuff – you just have to do it! You do it and you learn, and then you do it again, and you learn some more.  Anxiety and worry are truly all in my head.  If I stay right here, and do what’s in front of me, all is well.

Peace.

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07 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – – February 7

Your life is a result of the choices you make . . .if you don’t like your life, it is time to start making different choices.

When I was pregnant with my second child, I would waddle into daycare to drop the baby off and at times the other mom’s would be complaining about their husbands.  Whenever I was there, they would say how lucky I was to have my husband. He was so helpful and good with the baby, he made my lunch everyday, and he was so laid back about everything. I would say, “Lucky? I made a choice to marry my husband. I wasn’t forced to marry him. Didn’t you have a choice?”

Sometimes I have to sit still until I can make a different choice – if I don’t like my job – simply quitting isn’t the right thing to do. However, if my job is no longer life giving or if it is simply too unhealthy, I can begin to make choices in which I can make a job change.  We all have choices.  Sometimes I choose to accept that I don’t have a choice right now.

Peace.

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06 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – – February 6

Surrender to win!

Surrender! Lean into life with its ups and downs. Don’t tighten against the feelings and thoughts that come at you – observe and learn from them. Definitely don’t simply act on all of your thoughts and feelings, but there is no need to fear them.

Letting go and leaning in will bring peace. Just try it. It doesn’t happen overnight, it takes practice. Thoughts aren’t bad – we learn from them. Watching them and defining them for what they are instead of letting them stir up emotions that make no sense in the present.

Recently I received a call from a friend that she wasn’t going to be able to keep her plans with me. I got so hurt and shaken. The feelings didn’t make sense. I felt angry and like I was going to cry. I wanted to yell at her and tell her how she disappointed me. Instead I stopped. I sat down. I took some deep breaths and realized I just loved this person. I love her spirit and her energy. I simply wanted to be around her. I simply wanted something I couldn’t have.

Once I stripped down the thoughts and feelings like that, I smiled. I knew it wouldn’t be too long before we planned something else together. Instead of wanting and desiring, I just surrendered to the present moment.

Peace.

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05 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – – February 5

“The Only Thing That Is Constant Is Change”- -Heraclitus

Don’t kid yourself – change – true change – is difficult. It often means looking at yourself or someone else intimately. It means looking into the eyes and admitting that change is necessary. It is frightening to let go of the familiar. Even change that is good for us can have us clinging and grasping for what is familiar.

In my early 20’s I wanted to be in love. So I would try to fit love into anyone that would stick around. I’d accept being with people that weren’t very nice, simply because it became familiar. I knew somewhere in my soul that change was needed, but it was often too scary, so I would stay. I was conditioned to stay with tall, dark, handsome, and emotionally unavailable. It took great change to stay with someone who loved me, but who was honest about his love, not very tall, and emotionally available.

Today, I accept change. I don’t expect my husband, children or friends to stay the same. We all continue to grow and change. Embrace change. . .see it as adventure.

Peace.

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04 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – -February 4

“I sing to the realists . People who accept it like it is .”
― Aretha Franklin

I’m a realist. I’m sometimes  mistaken for a pessimist, but I’m definitely not.  I have simply journeyed enough to experience both joy and pain, love and indifference, birth and death. Why would I expect the rest of the path to be much different than the way I’ve come. I expect to experience more joy and pain, more love and indifference, more birth and death.

One could even argue that joy is that much brighter because one knows pain. Anyone who has experienced darkness knows the light as brighter than those usually in the sun. I find more peace by accepting the darkness and accepting the light. I’m a realist.

Peace.

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03 Feb 2014

Daily Ground- – -February 3

“The ingredients of both darkness and light are equally present in all of us,…The madness of this planet is largely a result of the human being’s difficulty in coming to viruous balance with himself. ”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

I’ve lived at least half of my life, and I am still trying to find balance. It’s difficult to attain and difficult to keep. There are times in life when things seem out of balance. Sudden death causes us unexpected grief. Joy surprises us when we are at our lowest. Life keeps happening and bringing with it the full range of emotions.

No matter how content and peaceful I feel, I will not remain there. No matter how dark and afraid I feel, I will not remain there. Life takes us to these places.  If I am blessed enough to truly walk the path with others, then when I’m in darkness, my spiritual friends show me the light. When I am living in the light, I will walk with others through their darkness.

Peace.

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02 Feb 2014

Daily Ground- – -February 2

Today – may I be granted the ability to meet each person and situation as if it is brand new. May I forget any past difficulties or preconceived notions. For it is only in this new space that I can see truth.    It is only when I can be in the present moment, that I can accept people and events just as they are.

Peace.

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01 Feb 2014

Daily Ground – – -February 1

Peace. It doesn’t mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. – – Unknown

Some days – I’m just irritable. Little things enrage me. Because I’m a seeker of peace – I have an awareness that the rage is just silly.  Most of my problems are problems of luxury, so when these problems make me want to jump out of my skin, I just stop.

Breathe in goodness. Say out loud, “These are problems of luxury.” Then stop.  Stopping brings me to the realization that I haven’t slept well, or haven’t eaten well, or I’m trying to meet some professional deadline. Then I forgive myself for being human and continue on with just a little more peace in my heart.

Peace.

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